what we read
an imperfect book club diary
Thursday, October 29, 2026
An Epic Journey and an Epic Read
Wednesday, September 2, 2026
Theo of Golden: A Balm for the Masses
Getting Organized
Digging In -- Almost
Insights and Opinions
Next On Our List to Read
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| Some of the smart people. |
Wednesday, July 29, 2026
The Things We Never Say
And then, one day, Artie learns that life has been keeping a secret from him, one that threatens to upend his entire world. Once he learns it, he is forced to chart a new course, to reconsider the relationships he holds most dear—and to make peace with the mysteries at the heart of our existence."
Insights and Opinions
"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible."
-- Carl Jung
+ The story unfolds quietly, in schoolroom scenes with Artie in front of his class, in Artie's meeting at a local bar with his old friend Flossie, at home with Artie and his wife Evie and the exchange of comments between them when Artie finds he must "let it go." Soon we learn that, despite all outward appearances, Artie is leading what Henry David Thoreau describes as a "life of quiet desperation."
+ To Jocey, this novel captures the secret despair people carry as they go about their lives and the loneliness that grows out of withholding the truth about this internal pain. By page 156, after Artie has learned the truth about his son but told no one and is meeting with his colleague Anne, we read "In a way, Artie was aware for the first time how much people lied to one another. Why had he not realized this before? Because he had not lied to people? He could not, in truth, remember now how much of his life he had been lying."
+ And as Linda pointed out, on page 182: "Because to say anything real was to say things nobody wanted to know. Of if they wanted to know, they would not care in the right way. Or even understand. It was a private thing, to be alive." This passage brought Niall Williams to mind for Shirley and how Williams' characters personify what it means to be alive.
+ Both Faith and Steve noted the inherent power gap in Artie's relationship with his wife Evie and how it shifts before the close of the story. Early in their lives, Artie is happy for the small wedding and agrees with Evie's family's general view that Evie is "marrying down." But Evie also uses this as power over him, which leaks out in unpleasant ways later on, telling Artie in a moment of anger that Evie's father never liked him. Evie has a habit of shutting down conversations with Artie when he tries to bring up something he cares about. And there is a point, Lois noted, when Evie admits she likes Artie better when he's not soft. To Faith, the fact that Artie takes the secret he finally learns to the grave is his final exertion of power over Evie. He now knows something she has always known, but he withholds the fact that he knows.
+ To Steve, Strout's novel is an atypically magnanimous book toward men, who are often not treated kindly in modern literature. Artie's developing relationship with Ken Moynihan, the strong bond that develops between Artie and his son even and especially after they both learn the secret Evie has been keeping, Heather's father showing up at the funeral, Artie's mentoring relationship with his student Danny -- all of these events and story elements are treated gently and with an astute understanding of human need and behavior.
+ The male characters are gently able to extend grace to each other, Lois noted. Artie extends grace to Danny, a troubled student, and then the clothing store owner extends grace to Artie after his failed shoplifting attempt.
+ Liz asked the group for their opinions on the references to the presidential election and whether they thought the references added or subtracted from the story flow. Margy felt that many of these references will be dated very quickly and will be less understood by future readers. Liz thought the references were intrusive and detracted from the flow, that the rest of the story felt like the characters talking to us and the election business felt like the author talking to us. Chris felt the references were unnecessary. Linda, Jocey, and Steve all disagreed. To Linda, the Ken Moynihan character would not have been important without this element, and his relationship with Artie is important. Jocey felt it was necessary because the results of the election have caused great pain. And per Steve: "I thought it was major. It shook me out of this growing false assumption of normalcy. It awakened me to the real danger."
+ Margy admired how Strout is able to cover vast territory with an economy of words. "She deals with class consciousness, suicide, secret love, loneliness, and death. But she manages to do it without being depressing," she said.
+ Two elements in the book left us all a bit stymied. Artie's frequent memory of his sister eating sugar on the sneak and Artie's constant questioning about whether or not free will exists both appear frequently in the pages of this novel. Yet neither is ever expanded upon in a way we fully understood, although we did have our theories. Maybe Strout feels like her message is obvious, but as readers, we didn't quite get it.
+ Linda reread the book and recommended we all do the same. Much of what is surprising at first read is actually revealed in hints and clues along the way, from the very beginning.
+ Margy asked the philosophical question at the heart of this book: Is it better to keep secrets or to share what you know? Chris had the right answer. "I don't think there is a universal answer to that."
+ Challenge question for the group: Did we all say what we really thought? Or did we refrain due to "holding certain views which others find inadmissible?"
Our Next Reads
We were wildly efficient at the close of our session, and locked in on both our titles and hosts for the next three months.
Thursday, June 18, 2026
What Survives in the Memory after the Death of a Brother?
In Conversation with the Author
What We Are Reading Next
Friday, May 29, 2026
Seeing Nothing Anymore, and Then Seeing Everything
While the doctors can find no explanation for Mona’s brief episode of blindness, they agree that the threat of permanent vision loss cannot be ruled out. The girl’s grandfather, Henry, may not be able to stop his granddaughter from losing her sight, but he can fill the encroaching darkness with beauty. Every Wednesday for a year, the pair abscond together and visit a single masterpiece in one of Paris’s renowned museums. From Botticelli to Basquiat, Mona learns how each artist’s work shaped the world around them. In turn, the young girl’s world is changed forever by the power of their art. Under the kind and careful tutelage of her grandfather, Mona learns the true meaning of generosity, melancholy, love, loss, and revolution. Her perspective will never be the same—nor will the reader’s."
Insights and Opinions
- Each chapter begins with a scene of a few pages -- Mona with her friends, or Mona at school, or Mona at her father's resale shop. In these scenes, we learn that Mona's mother is frazzled, Mona's father drinks too much, and there is a mystery surrounding a dead grandmother no one speaks about.
- Next, Mona and her grandfather arrive at a museum (there are three art museums in all), and stop in front of a piece of art. The artwork is then described in lengthy detail. Mona is directed to look at the art as long as she is able. In some cases, she studies for as long as 20 minutes. The museum visits occur when Mona's parents believe she and her grandfather are at an appointment with a psychiatrist.
- Then, her grandfather asks her to tell him what she notices and they discuss the work. Typically, some sort of moral or nugget of wisdom about living life emerges from these discussions. Each of these "nuggets" forms part of the chapter title.
- Method one: One can read the book word for word, chapter by chapter, lengthy artwork description by lengthy artwork description.
- Method two: Or, one can skim over the lengthy artwork descriptions and just read it for the story of Mona and grandpa and school and mom and dad and the missing grandmother and whether Mona will ultimately lose her vision.
Our Next Read
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| Steve joined via Zoom. |
Monday, March 23, 2026
Turns Out We Can't Really Know Anything
Insights and Opinions
What We Will Read Next
- Shirley will choose for us one Shakespeare sonnet and let us all know ahead of time so we can read it.
- For the meeting, each of us will bring a favorite poem to read aloud as well as hard copies of this favored poem.
- Chris will host.
| Shirley and Chris |
| The rest of us via Zoom due to heavy snow. |
Monday, March 2, 2026
Picking Up the Pieces of One's Own Mistakes
What begins as a fleeting transgression becomes a complex secret that irrevocably binds all four of them in unexpected ways. As their small Ohio town remakes itself in the postwar boom, the Salt and Jenkins families remain in each other’s orbit, and the consequences of choices made long ago begin to emerge, reshaping their lives in ways that will forever impact the next generation.
Sweeping yet intimate, resplendent with moments of deep emotion and unforgettable characters, Buckeye is a transportive story of love, loyalty, sacrifice, and forgiveness."













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